A couple of people I know have come out of abusive relationships with their personality shattered. I don’t mean that they became more cynical or depressed or something simple like that. I mean that something intrinsic, something really fundamental and core to how they felt and seemed as people just changed, leaving them like hollow versions of their former selves. Or if not hollow, then unrecognisable. With elements of hidden hopelessness and cynicism and blasé distantness and an almost creepy weirdness.
One of the most painful things I’ve seen. The extinguishing of hope.